Compliments
are a simple, yet powerful, relationship building tool.
There are many different reasons to give a compliment.
The most compelling - You are making the other person
feel great and it will also make you feel good. You
cannot give a sincere compliment without feeling great.
It's impossible. Why does it feel so wonderful to pay
a compliment? Because you are connecting honestly, directly,
and kindly with another human being. It is a basic need
that doesn't get met often in our fast-paced, media-hyped,
negative-slanted, technical world.
There are also
many hidden benefits to giving compliments. It's amazing
that such a small, simple skill like giving away compliments
can change the way you view yourself and the world around
you. It will strengthen your relationships, boost your
self-esteem, and increase your self-confidence. You
will experience joy and happiness as you learn to give
selflessly. And you will make the other person experience
all these benefits in a higher and deeper level. The
compliment giving is a jump-start for looking at the
world in a positive, refreshing and stimulating way
for the giver as well as for the receiver.
Actually giving
compliments should be given not only to your love one
but to anyone you encounter. Once you start developing
this skill you begin to see how richly multifaceted
people really are. People's positive traits will jump
out at you. Your thought processes shifts from looking
for the worst in people to looking for the best. You
begin to see the possibilities, not the obstacles in
people as well as in life. |
